Do you find yourself in a constant struggle with your partner? Have you tried to work things out only to find things get worse? There may be significant neurobiological differences in how you experience the world and how you express yourselves. This inadvertently creates misunderstandings and conflict in relationships.
Everyone has a constellation of traits that make up their personality and default way of being. Both partners will identify some personal traits in the following article. Some of the traits listed here are strengths in certain contexts. When one person has a cluster of these traits they are likely to fall under an neurodiverse profile. Their partner may be more average or neurotypical, or may be neurodivergent as well.
A neurobiological framework is useful in that it makes sense of the common misunderstandings and removes blame and shame. When we are accepting of all of ourselves, both strengths and challenges, we are far more empowered to creatively problem solve and be less reactive in our relationships.
Accepting what is not likely to change, is the first step in making relationship changes.
